The First Meeting

It was only a few days after we got The Call that we found ourselves driving an hour to meet with Emily. I was SO nervous - how do you act when you're meeting the expectant mother of your potential child? It's such a crazy circumstance and I wanted to make a good impression. My husband and I were both pretty quiet on the car ride, each of us lost in our own thoughts. 

As we parked the car, I took a huge breath and we walked up to the adoption agency. We were led into a room with a couch and chairs and we waited only a few minutes before Emily came in. We all stood awkwardly for a moment (my husband and I can sometimes specialize in being awkward - it's a gift) and then we all introduced ourselves and sat down. Thankfully there were two amazing social workers in the room to help drive the conversation. 

Such an awkward (and special) picture of us all! This was the best of many photos taken at the end of our meeting. The social worker told us it was because of lighting, but I'm pretty sure she was just trying to get us all to make normal faces. :) In order to keep her privacy, I won't be showing Emily's face. 

Such an awkward (and special) picture of us all! This was the best of many photos taken at the end of our meeting. The social worker told us it was because of lighting, but I'm pretty sure she was just trying to get us all to make normal faces. :) In order to keep her privacy, I won't be showing Emily's face. 

We started out with small talk and then we just let Emily ask us any questions she had. We told her about how we met, about what we do for work and fun, and much more. Emily also told us all about herself and what had led her to make an adoption plan. She told us that the doctor had told her she was having a boy and he was due to arrive in about 1 week. She also told us that as soon as she saw our profile she was SURE we were the family she wanted. She had refused to look at any other profiles the agency gave her.

Then came the craziest part - she told us how nervous she was to meet us - how she just wanted us to like her. What?! That thought had never crossed my mind. Up to this point I had only been thinking about her liking us - more like she was a boss and I was at a job interview. It didn't really matter what the boss was like as long as they liked me and I got the job. It was at that moment that I realized how naive I'd been. Emily was nervous and unsure just like us and this meeting wasn't about me getting someone to approve of me and my husband, it was about being honest and open about who we are and getting to know Emily and who she is.   

From that point, our conversation became much more relaxed and as we bantered more I asked Emily what it was that she liked so much about our profile book. She told us it was because we "do stuff and read". You never know what it is that an expectant mother will relate to! She told us how much she loved our profile book and how she really felt like she knew us just from reading it. She also told us that now that she had met us, our profile did a great job of representing who we really are. 

Our meeting ended with us exchanging phone numbers and planning to meet again soon. We were all hoping an adoption plan would work out between us. At this point in the process both parties are instructed to take a day to think about everything and then let our social workers know if we would like to move forward. 

Of course we called Katie (our social worker) early the next day to let her know we were all in.